Paradigm Shifts

The video above is a beautiful reminder of the necessity for positive paradigms. Remember The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey? I read this book about 10 years ago, but I was recently reminded of it at a training session I attended for my job. Covey describes a paradigm as the way we see a situation. Unfortunately, we do not often see situations as they are but we see them as we are. If we are in a negative state, then we are likely to allow that attitude to color the situations we are perceiving. It is important, therefore, to re-examine and question our paradigms.



Covey, in a presentation I saw once, spoke about an interesting example of a time when a paradigm shift completely changed the way he felt about a situation. He was in a restaurant where some kids were being unruly and loud. The kids were causing the environment of the restaurant to be uncomfortable for many of the patrons. Oddly, the father of the children sat seemingly unaware of his children's wild behavior. Covey approached the father and said, "You know, your kids are really making the restaurant uncomfortable. Maybe, you should do something." The father replied with a soft tone, "You're right. I probably should do something. We just came from the hospital where they lost their mother about an hour ago though. I guess they don't know how to handle it. I guess I don't either." This information allowed Covey to see the situation as it really was. He could view the father and the children with compassion. All of Covey's agitation dissolved.

I like the idea of keeping an open mind (of course, easier said than done). When someone or something agitates me, I can safely assume (in most cases) that I do not have all the necessary information to make a fair judgement. Perhaps, there is a perfectly reasonable explanation. I can seek out that explanation or just decide not to judge the situation (depending on the factors involved). How I view a situation (my paradigm) affects my thoughts, which affect my feelings, which determine my actions. You know that saying about your thoughts and actions, right?



Sew a thought, reap an action.

Sew an action, reap a habit.

Sew a habit, reap a character.

Sew a character, reap a destiny.



It is my paradigm, though, that determines my thoughts. If I see myself as a failure, then I will think thoughts of failure and probably fail. If I see myself as a champion, then I will think champion thoughts. My champion thoughts will inspire good feelings, constructive actions, healthier habits, stronger character, and a destiny worth living.



The great individuals in the video above possessed positive paradigms that helped them to persevere through their challenges. Despite their setbacks, they achieved extraordinary things. We can too!





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